House Rules

Not a debate hall.
Not a classroom.
Not a therapy group.

A place where patterns are named plainly and without apology.

If you’re here to argue that women are misreading their lives, this is not for you.

If you’re here to be entertained without being implicated, this will get uncomfortable fast.

Intentional.

Proceed accordingly.

What this space is for

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This space exists to examine sex, power, desire, and control as they actually operate—socially, politically, emotionally.

• We talk about systems, not individual redemption arcs.
• We name patterns without centering male intention.
• We treat discomfort as information, not a problem to solve.

You do not have to agree with everything written here.
You do have to engage in good faith.

What will not happen here

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• No “just asking questions” used as denial.
• No tone policing.
• No derailing into personal anecdotes meant to disprove structural analysis.
• No demands for labor, proof, or emotional caretaking.

Misogyny dressed up as curiosity is still misogyny.
Racism dressed up as “nuance” is still racism.

About comments and engagement

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Comments are a privilege, not a right.

They will be removed if they:
• minimize sexual violence or harassment,
• center male hurt feelings over women’s lived realities,
• attempt to litigate someone else’s boundaries,
• demand explanations already given in the work.

There will be no public warnings, no performative back-and-forths, no comment-section trials.

Silence here means a boundary was enforced, not that a point was “won.”

What you should not send

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Do not send:
• identifying details about real people,
• screenshots involving private individuals,
• crisis disclosures or requests for intervention,
• legal claims, medical questions, or requests for adjudication.

This is not therapy.
This is not clinical care.
This is not emergency support.

If you are in crisis, please seek local, immediate help.

A final note

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Monica is not here to be liked.
She is here to be precise.

If that works for you, stay.
If it doesn’t, leaving quietly is also a form of consent.