Why Men Who Harass Women Are Never Well-Loved Harassment Is Not Dominance. It’s Deprivation. You Are Not Dominant. You Are Deprived.
On desire, resentment, and why online misogyny is rarely about politics.
There is a particular kind of man who spends an astonishing amount of time harassing women online. He is angry, explicit, repetitive, and deeply invested in the fantasy that he is intimidating someone who matters. He wants attention, but only the kind that confirms his grievance. He wants power, but only the kind that doesn’t require self-reflection.
What he does not want is intimacy.
I’ve said it before and I will say it again: No man who is well-fed, well-loved, and well-fucked spends his evenings stalking strangers on the internet. That behavior is not dominance. It is deprivation.
I say this without cruelty, but without softness either. A significant number of these men are virgins. Others have had sex so infrequently, or so transactionally, that they have lost any meaningful relationship to desire. Instead of dealing with that reality, they externalize it. They turn their hunger into hostility. They confuse cruelty for confidence and volume for relevance.
Harassment is not strength. It is leakage.
Desire denied does not disappear. It finds other outlets. When people refuse to understand their own longing, it metastasizes into resentment. That resentment looks political. It looks ideological. It looks like rage. But at its core, it is personal and unaddressed.
This is why misogyny online feels so repetitive. It isn’t creative. It isn’t strategic. It’s compulsive. These men aren’t trying to persuade anyone. They are trying to feel something—anything—that breaks through the numbness of being unwanted.
Men who are satisfied do not behave this way. Men who feel chosen do not need to terrorize strangers. Men who are anchored—emotionally, erotically, socially—are too busy living their lives to spend hours fantasizing about women who will never touch them.
I understand why this truth enrages them. It removes the mythology. It denies them the dignity of being feared. It reframes them not as villains, but as abandoned children pounding on locked doors.
That does not make their behavior acceptable. It makes it legible.
And because it is legible, it is also boring.
I refuse to tiptoe around this reality to protect fragile egos. I refuse to pretend harassment is political discourse or cultural critique. It is a symptom of deprivation dressed up as entitlement.
Calling it what it is doesn’t make me cruel. It makes me honest.
Monica Craiyon
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